I heard something a few weeks ago that I can’t stop thinking about. Recently I started listening to the Aubrey Marcus podcast. In one of the episodes I was listening to he said he doesn’t follow the golden rule, “Treat others as you wish to be treated.” He follows the platinum rule, “Treat others well because they are you living a different life.”
When I first heard this, I was intrigued. I have always tried to imagine things from other people’s point of view in order to get a better understanding, but this was different. This is truly accepting someone for who they are because you believe under their circumstances that would be you.
At first my mind wandered to people in unfortunate situations. But where it got interesting is when I started to use this concept when thinking about people I had felt no guilt in judging in the past. All you have to do is turn on the news to see a few of those people. While I still totally disagree with their politics and decisions, I am forced now to totally accept them because that would be me under those exact same circumstances.
Then I made it more personal. I have worked very hard to forgive some people that have really hurt me in the past. People that don’t even realize or acknowledge they should be sorry. While I have forgiven them, thinking about them in this way adds a level of acceptance I hadn’t experienced before.
I am very grateful for this new tool. I am working to actively use it today, but hopefully overtime it will be a concept that is just part of my way of thinking about all people.